Reponsibility of Wife When Husband Does Not Pray

By Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Posted: 6 Jamad-ul-Awwal 1424, 6 July 2003

Q.) I want to find out what is the ruling for a practicing Muslim wife whose Muslim husband does not pray except occasionally. He has tried intermittently to establish salat but it was not consistent. Otherwise he is a good husband and a good father; he encourages his kids to pray and is helpful to his wife in gaining knowledge of the deen and never stopped her from her prayers or wearing hijab etc. She believes that he wants to pray but is probably lazy and only Allah knows what's inside a heart. She has tried to make him pray but her efforts have been counter productive.

She wants to know what are her obligations in this situation:

1. Is it halal for her to stay with him (they have kids, and she wants to preserve the relationship)

2. Is she going to be held responsible in any way on the Day of Judgment. [Tajwar Aamir]

A.) This is a very frequent occurrence today, but unless a person openly denies the obligation of Salat, he will remain a Muslim. While he is still a Muslim, caring and providing for his wife and family, it is permissible for the wife to remain with him. The wife should encourage him to do righteous deeds and forbid him from evil.

It is advisable that she has Ta'leem of such Kitaabs which will spur herself and the rest of the family to do righteous deeds. She may also obtain reliable literature and keep them within his reach. Also, make du'a to Allah for his guidance.

And Allah Ta'ala Knows Best